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Separation > Life

 That cryptic header refers to life after separation. Up until 5 or so years ago I was married for 30 years, before my wife decamped. I was left unemployed,  with regular weekly debts and responsible for the daily care of two children.  The psychological and social impacts of this situation for children I will avoid commenting on. Even though our society totally supports separation as being good for the economy, it's disastrous for children as it undermines their sense of stability and trust in humankind. 

But this is my blog, my post about what it's been like for me. Well obviously,  straight up there are some sleepless nights spent planning how to generate an income.  Even though my ex, (whom i don't talk to for obvious reasons),  left the home, I believe she expected me to fall in a heap and allow her to sell this property and then toss me a bag of lose change. But here's the thing,  becoming free from  her ah, negativity, and having a fresh slate allowed me to roar into life. 

I won't detail everything,  but provide a snapshot of life how it has become.  I've now been running my own business from 2 weeks following separation and successfully paid bills,  won the house in a court battle, kept the children living more simply and earnestly, seem my daughter complete college with honours then run her own business with her beloved horses as well as suceed at state level competition.  

My son, who was close to his mother,  has struggled but is now blooming too. He strives for perfection and so is reluctant to chance his arm without real assurance of success.  But he's learnt that life ain't like that.  On the back of a mammoth build I undertook on the property offer two years,  the has begun constructing a shed from bush timbers and isdoing ac great job,  to his own design.  He will consult and ask for help only when needed.  

Generally,  I am fitter, more active,  seeking out genuine people to spend time with and just always kicking life goals. There's no way I can see myself "settling" into a new relationship as i embrace myself again after so many years of confusion and delusion.  So,  if you find this post,  and if you are in a dissatisfying relationship,  put your ducks in order and fly into a brighter future.  

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